Are you a red flag or a green flag?

The 3 possible results

• Red flag

  Ghosting, digs, grudges: your defence reflexes push people away. The good news is that you've just noticed.

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  Let's be honest: when you're hurt, you strike back. Passive-aggressive messages, radio silence, blame shifted onto others: these reflexes protect you in the moment, but they damage your relationships.

  Your strength, paradoxically, is your intensity: you care about people, otherwise you wouldn't react so strongly. And answering this quiz honestly shows you can face yourself.

  The way forward: spot what triggers these reactions (tiredness, jealousy, fear of being abandoned) and give yourself a pause before you respond. Red flags often hide old wounds: that's where the work is.

• Somewhere in between

  You know how to do the right thing, when you remember to. Not quite a green flag yet, but far from a red one.

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  Most of the time, you listen, take responsibility and respect others. But on some days, tiredness or ego takes over, and an old habit resurfaces.

  Your strength is your self-awareness: you recognise your flaws, and that's already half the journey. People who know you know they can trust you.

  The way forward: identify your two or three risky situations (late-night arguments, jealousy, pride) and plan a different reaction. Maturity isn't about being perfect, it's about being aware.

• Green flag

  You listen, you own your mistakes, you respect boundaries: you're the person everyone would love to have in their life.

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  You handle conflict without blowing up, you congratulate without envy and you give people their space. People feel safe with you, and that's rare.

  Your strength is emotional maturity: you can say how you feel without hurting anyone, and hear how others feel without getting defensive.

  The trap: being a green flag doesn't mean accepting everything. Keep setting your boundaries and protecting yourself: you can be kind and firm at the same time.

How it works

1. 1

   Answer the questions

   One question per screen, no right or wrong answers: pick what sounds most like you.

2. 2

   Discover your result

   Your answers add up to a score, and that score places you in one of the possible results.

3. 3

   Compare with your friends

   Share your result: your friends take the quiz and see both profiles side by side, with how many answers you have in common.

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